Stalking Safety and Personal Security

Have you or someone you know been the victim of a stalker? Odds are good that you have an acquaintance who is being victimized by a stalker. Over 3.4 million people each year in the US find themselves the victim of stalking. The bottom line is that stalking is a very serious and potentially dangerous crime. Women are over three times more likely to be victims. Stalking by definition are actions that scare you or make you feel danger. Stalkers don't fit a criminal profile. Sometimes a stalker can be someone you met a work, other times they could be someone you dated, or you may not know them at all. Stalkers are consistent about lots of their actions. Here are some common actions to become aware of:

• Calls you over and over, may call and then hang up.
• Shows up unexpectedly wherever you are.
• Sends unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-mails.
• Causes property damage to your home or car.
• Keeps tabs on your internet and phone use.
• Threaten you or loved ones with physical harm.

First things first, if you feel or sense immediate danger call 911 immediately for help. When it comes to stalking and staying safe, go with your instincts. If a situation doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Protect yourself with a good pepper spray, mace or stun gun. These types of self defense products can be extremely effective in a dangerous situation. It is wise to contact a professional crisis hotline. Many domestic violence or victims services agencies are specifically trained to help you handle a stalker situation. Many will talk to you about the laws, help you complete a safety plan and put you in touch with other resources. A good safety plan includes implementing the buddy system. It is important not to be alone. Whenever possible arrange to have a trusted friend or family member with you. Have a safe and confidential place to stay if necessary. Know what you will do if the stalker shows up unexpectedly. Communicate with people who can help you. Your friends and family should know what's going on. Someone should always know where your going and how long you expect to be gone. If the stalker is someone you know then firmly tell them to stop. Don't wait for an answer or response. From that point forward all communication with the stalker should stop. Consider filing a protection order with your local police department. Keep records and potential evidence of the stalking, including when and where a stalker contacts your or follows you. Hold on to emails, voice messages, text messages, etc. Promote my blog